First of all i would like to thank everyone who has given me and my sister (sarah33) advice on these forums. We have found it very helpfull especially as before my mum had mouth cancer i had never heard of anyone having it before. We dont get much time to log on and reply as its so full on at the moment but i just wanted you all to know we appreciate your comments.Cookie, Deb,Shirl and Trev - thanks so much. I read your stories and im touched by what you write and how brave you have all been. Sadly my mum has mouth cancer as has been told its terminal. She was diagnosed in the August, operation (neck disection) in the sept, Radio and chemo in Nov, however before she started treatment in Nov she was told the cancer was terminal. Sadly my mum is coming to the end of her life and could bascially die any time. Its such a horrible and scary death awaiting her too. She has been told the cancer has spread into her windpipe and blocking her airway. This all came to light 2 weeks ago when she was rushed into A&E with breathing probs. We were told she had days to live which is just awful as she looks better than she did a month ago when she was on her radio and chemo treatment. To make this worse she has cravings to eat and drink which she cant as she is fed through a peg. Bascially she will feel a tightening of breath and she could die straight away or they will give her some strong drugs to let her slip into a comma and die peacefully. The alternative was to give her another operation for a hole in her throat so she can breath, it will give her a bit more time, she wont be able to talk and there is a high chance she could die on the operating table. She obviously wants to die peacefully. Every day i wake up and think is today the day ? its just awful im trying to be strong as she is being incredibly brave but i dont know what to say to her. She says she has accepted it and has had enough but i can tell she is frightened and i dont know what i can say to her. Any advice ?