Early September we found out that my dad had mouth cancer. It was in its first stages. He decided to opt for radiotherapy, its been grueling to watch, but in December he was putting on weight again, the nurses and doctors were very positive. Just before christmas my dad yawn, and he felt the lump, hotspot come basically "smack bang" where it had been before. He even put on weight! So positive! Then he couldnt eat. Hes experiencing pain from his head to his shoulders and last week went to check this out, it turns out to be muscular pain. As he was getting this checked, it turns out teh radiotherapy hasn't worked. Then Friday we found he has less than sixth months left to live. He goes for another bisopsy on tuesday, but hes going into theatre for it as hes too sore.He will have MRI scan on Wednesday. Hopefully, if these turn out ok he does have the option of surgery. However, hes scared. Scared beyond belief. He doesn't want to surrender giving up all this capeabilities e.g. talking, going to the toilet, combing his hair etc What have your experiences been with surgery?