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Hi, I just had biopsy and MRI to confirm what I already know. 40 years of heavy smoking and drinking caught up with me. For whatever reason I thought I might go another 10 years but here we are. I know how my follow up meeting will go in 4 days. I have self medicated for decades just to get through my days so I can't see adding cancer will make things better.

Does anyone have any advice or experience with refusing treatment? There is simply no way I am going under the knife or having chemo or radiation. What are doctors or family's reactions to this? I knew this was my eventual end and have thought about it for years. No way will I be remembered as a cut up, radiated corpse, I would rather go out early and whole. Anyone have any experience with this?
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You need to take that chance - the gift of more life. Take advice from the experts.
The treatment is onerous and it will take time - but there is a good quality of life afterwards.
Take good advice on medication such as anti-depressants - they really helped me.

best wishes Tony K
Thanks for the boost Tony! Since first posting I found out that surgery is not needed, just radiation and some supplemental chemo. I was already on an antidepressant which I believe is standard practice with heavy painkillers but the newly prescribed valium is easing the stress of going cold turkey on the 2 pack/day habit - a week today which is no small accomplishment. Cheers, D
All the best to you pal. I am taking 40mg of citalopram a day atm. Going through a stressful phase healthwise. Hopefully I'll work through it.
Keep off the fags! - How do you find the valium? - I've never taken it. Good news on the surgery - hope all the other stuff goes well. I felt very negative at the time (nearly 13 years ago). Got through it in the end though. And I am sure you will too

cheers tony k
I'm afraid that I feel the same way as dogfighter did in the beginning. I don't yet know that I have cancer of the tongue. I had a biopsy on Monday and I'll get the results in a week. But for the past 13 years I've lived with chronic pain, so I see no reason to extend my life any longer. The truth is I've been hoping for a terminal illness and maybe this is it. But since I haven't had a cigarette in 11 years and I don't chew tobacco and it's been 7 years since I've had any alcohol. So my test will most likely be negative and where I should be happy, well I don't know how to feel.
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Originally posted by amkoffee:
I'm afraid that I feel the same way as dogfather did in the beginning. I don't yet know that I have cancer of the tongue. I had a biopsy on Monday and I'll get the results in a week. But for the past 13 years I've lived with chronic pain, so I see no reason to extend my life any longer. The truth is I've been hoping for a terminal illness and maybe this is it. But since I haven't had a cigarette in 11 years and I don't chew tobacco and it's been 7 years since I've had any alcohol. So my test will most likely be negative and where I should be happy, well I don't know how to feel.
You need to see a doctor and get some medication for your depression. If you have had pain for 13 years it won't be cancer of the tongue because that would have killed you by now.

You have to be pro active with your life.

Be nice if you posted back - I am going to assume your test result was negative.

best wishes tony k

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