Although expected, this news is so very sad. Everyone on this site has lost a friend. Brenda was inspirational.

Goodbye Brenda, you will be missed so much, though you will live on as you have touched so many lives.

With deepest sympathy to Brenda's family and friends.

I would like to pass on my deepest condolences to Brenda's family. She touched so many people and will be greatly missed.
I do not post often but Brenda did help me with her posts when I first came onto this site, I am saddened by the fact that such a nice caring person has been taken away from us.

Very sad to hear this news. Brenda was an inspiration to many. I will pray for her husband and family. Sleep well, Brenda, you have gone to a better place but will not be forgotten by the people who knew and loved you.

Sue E
I am so sad and sorry to hear this news. I don't post very often but read the posts frequently and it is clear that Brenda has been an inspiration to so many.
My sincere condolences to John and family.
I would like to add my voice to the chorus of sadness at Brenda's death. I only knew her from this site, but it is clear that despite facing very difficult times during the last few years, she proved very supportive to other patients and the Mouth Cancer Foundation as a whole. My condolences to her family and friends.
So sorry to hear about Brenda, i met her for the first time earlier this year. She was a lovely lady with a big heart. Deepest sympathy to her family and friends.
sI arrived in Vienna earlier this evening where I was able to get on line and I was faced with the sad news.
Goodbye Brenda, you were a lovely person to know,when I am looking for inspiration I will think of you.
Keep Smiling
Dear All

Thank you for your kind words about Brenda. I have just received details of her funeral arrangements:

Here are the details of the funeral arrangements. We would be delighted to see you but don’t feel an obligation:
  • 1) 10am service at St Edwards on Saturday 28 June in Whitley Bay
  • 2) 11.15am(ish) at the Whitley Bay Crematorium (all welcome)
  • 3) 12 noon - 4pm (ish)reception at The Grand Hotel, Tynemouth (“Brenda’s treat”)

Brenda has asked for
  • 1) No black if possible (but she would, no doubt, have forgiven those who need to)
  • 2) No flowers, donations to the Mouth Cancer Foundation. For further information contact Carol Nesbitt, 34 Willoughby Drive, Woodburn, Whitley Bay, Tyne and Wear, NE26 3DY, tel 0191 2524092
  • 3) Please come to the Grand Hotel, Brenda wants it to be a celebration and it’s “her treat”. A celebration may be difficult but we will try.

Take care


If any member wishes to attend please contact Carol Nesbitt and also let me know. I will be attending to say farewell to Brenda and will convey the good wishes of all here to John and family.

Best wishes
Vinod Coffee
Dr Vinod

Would you please give our condolenses to John and family, we are sorry that we are unable to attend the funeral as we are on holiday in Sandiego visiting my sister.

Our thoughs will be with everyone on the day.

Brenda was and still is a very special lady who not only helped Dave though his dark days, but many others on the site with her posts and the inspiration in them.

Goodbye and farewell Brenda we know you will still be keeping an eye on us all from were you are.

God bless you.

Dave & Sue
Unfortunately I cannot attend the funeral, It's a fair way from me and work/finances dont allow. I will be thinking of Brenda on the day though and will have a beer for her after work to celebrate her life. If you could pass on my regards to John and her family I would appreciate it too Vinod. Thanks. Hagg.
I'd like to echo everyones condolances for Brenda and her family.
I'ts so sad to hear that someone that fought so hard lost the battle.

She'll be sadly missed. The MCF has lost a fine asset to it's cause.
please convey my condolences to brendas family and friends she was an inspiration to us on this forum and i would often read her blog when something was troubleing me during my treatment for mouth cancer and she always tried to lift our spirits ,we will miss her
Dear Dr. Vinod,

Wish I could be there with her family. Very sad to learn about her passing. Please convey my condolence to John and family. I have lost a friend here in Malaysia and today is his funeral.

May their souls rest in peace.


'Life is too short'
We are really down hearted to read about the sad news about Brenda .
She was a great inspiration to Paul and I and indeed to all .We will miss her posts and chat so very much .Please pass on our condolences to John and her family.

Brenda will always be remembered for her courage and help to others not only on this forum but in her private and social life where she did such amazing fund raising.
God Bless her and all her family at this sad time.

Paul & Bell.
Also just back from holidays and have seen the sad news. Brenda's blog was one of the first I read on the website, and her warm and caring personality was apparent in all her posts. She always made the best out of every situation, no matter what the cost to herself. I wish her peace and my thoughts are with her family.

Subject: Brenda's ob
Date: 8 July 2008 08:11:16 BST

Dear all

I’ve placed a final posting on Brenda’s blog and referred to it on the Justgiving web site. Thank you again for all your wonderful support.

Kind regards

John Brady
I followed the link to John's obituary for Brenda. It was such a wonderful testament to her. I am in tears as I write this. The Christmas 2004 dancing video is so poignant. Brenda was clearly a good person.

Thank you for posting this Vinod. What a moving tribute from a loving Husband.I loved the Pea poem, what a woman, she made me smile even as I felt sad.
I've not yet posted on the loss of Brenda, I honestly did not know what to say.
I've just read the "pea"
I'm not religious, I don't know if there is an 'afterlife' but reading the final post from John all I can do is go for my next operation at the end of the month with all the courage I can and think of Brenda and the inspiration and love she had given to many. Her strength has given me strength.
At first I wasn't going to reply to this thread - everyone seems to have said it all. But then I read "The Pea," and was reduced to tears and then got to do it all over again in newcomer Nameeta's tribute to her mother in Introduce Yourself.

And then SusieR shows up....Three women with such remarkable courage that I feel humbled for often being such a wuss. I hope to draw from their inspiration.

I will miss Brenda, she is truly an inspiration to many and always a happy soul. I will remember her courage in standing up on the podium at the Mouth Cancer Walk a couple of years ago, attending the voice awards and also sitting next to me on the counseling course (and giving me words of encouragement during our role play session).

My classmate from junior school, Michelle Boudreau (in USA), is fundraising for cancer research. Her 60 year old dad, Jim, is cycling non-stop for 24 hours and has asked for names of cancer sufferers or those who have passed. I have put Brenda's name forward to be worn on his jersey as he cycles.

Brenda your positive spirit will not be forgotten. I am sorry for the late response (I have been unwell after a car accident).

Love, Geeta

I did not know Brenda, but read her entire story and many others posted here. I have been a member since a scary brush with a papiloma...and Brenda's was one of the first stories I read.

What a remarkable woman, the world surely has a whole in it that can never be filled.

My deepest sympathy,


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