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I have sorry to have to have to pass on the sad message below from John Brady. Please pray for Brenda. She has been an inspiration to us all and I will never be able to repay her for her whole-hearted support for our activities. I have never met a lovelier lady. God bless you Brenda and keep you safe always.



From: "Brenda Brady"
Date: 14 June 2008 22:02:58 BST
To: "'Dr Vinod Joshi - Mouth Cancer Foundation'"
Subject: Brenda's not well


I’m afraid I have some bad news for you. Brenda has received the latest results from her CT and MRI scans. The tumours in her lungs and surrounding tissue have grown significantly and the disease seems to be accelerating. She’s now very breathless and has had a very painful last few weeks – an oxygen supply has been installed in the house. The doctors have ruled out any further radio therapy and chemo is not an option. She’s almost bedbound and is not responding to emails. The doctors won’t say how long she has left but have advised that she should now make arrangements to see family and friends.

She’s being well looked after by our two children, and I’m playing a part also. I only hope we are able to care for her at home right to the end.

Thanks for all the support you and your organisation have provided over the last four plus years – I know it has given Brenda great comfort and has been a source of much useful information. Could you pass this message on to the people on the web site who Brenda has come to know?

Kind regards

John Brady
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Dear Vinod,
I, for one, would be very grateful if you could pass on my heartfelt feelings of sadness and joy to Brends. Though she did not communicate much, she did respond to some of my posts. She is a wonderful human being and reading from her earlier posts, a very gentle and caring lady who just cared and loved everyone here on the forum.
With lots of warm regards to Brenda and her family,
Like Paul I met Brenda earlier this year and found her to be a lovely, caring person. She has coped so well with everything she has been through and has been unstinting in her kindness and support to others. She has responded to some of my posts with such warmth and humour.

I am so very sorry to hear this news. My thoughts are with Brenda and her family.

Much love

i feel completely devastated by this news. i have only been a member of the site for a short while but brenda was one of the first people to lend me support and she gave me such early inspiration as she was treated at the same hospital as me. i wanted to come on the site today and announce my personal goal of getting just over half way with my chemo/RT but that seems just so insignificant now. Please pass this message back to the Brady's I am relatively local to her and if there is anything i can do to help please ask them to get in
Dear All

I have received the sad news that Brenda passed away peacefully this morning amongst her family and friends. She was uplifted by the messages posted above that John read to her. She thanked you all for thinking of her.

Keep well Brenda, you will always be here with us.

Best wishes
Vinod Frowner

p.s. funeral arrangements will be posted when received
Although I did not know Brenda, I remember her name on this site when I was having some scary dental issues. I am so sorry for the loss-her family will be in my prayers. I know God will take care of such a wonderful person in heaven. Dr. Koshi, thank you for forwarding this to me- you are a wonderful doctor. May God bless you, Brenda's family and everyone on this board.
Since I've start to read you all, two years ago, I feel like a "brotherhood". I used to e-mail one of our dear souls in UK: unfortunately, she died too, some months ago. For me, It was terrible to know through the family. BUT We are still here, fighting and remembering this beautiful woman Brenda, who gave us such power of joy. My thoughts with the dear family and also with YOU ALL! Though I'm far away and not writing, I'm with you.
Thank you for being.
Thank you so much for letting us know about Brenda's passing Dr Joshi.
Such a sad, sad shock as we haven't been on line for ages. The forum, foundation and the whole 'family' have lost a loving, supportive friend.
Our deepest sympathy to Brenda's family. We can only imagine the emptiness they are feeling right now. The only blessing is the fact that Brenda now has perfect peace.
Love to everyone else. Think of you all often.
Deborah and Trevor
I didn't know Brenda either, nor have I posted on this forum before, but I was a "lurker" last year .....almost exactly a year ago, I started RT at Manchester's wonderful Christie Hospital for a squamous tumour at the bottom-end/base of my tongue....

... my consultant told me straightaway that there was an 80% chance of a lasting cure....which seems to have been borne out so far, as my follow-ups (one next Tuesday!) have revealed that the tumour is history (touch wood)...

..but what got me through the 3-4 months of RT side-effects (the peeling, the oozing, the scabs, the swallowing difficulties... 3 months of Ensure, not too bad a diet actually), and despite the great help the Christie radiotherapists were in supporting me....was you kind people....

..the best "help" was my lurking on several mouth cancer forums (fora?) and getting the re-assurance of seeing that so many other people had also come through exactly the same journey, so as each otherwise-alarming side-effect came, it was no surprise.... and I was able to remain positive and optimistic because so many others (sounds like Brenda was one) had taken the time and trouble to post on the forums. Late thanks to you asll.

This year, I've started a new job as a community support worker , and hope that I'm making a positive contribution to the lives of others who are also now needing a bit of help.....


"All mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated...As therefore the bell that rings to a sermon, calls not upon the preacher only, but upon the congregation to come: so this bell calls us all: but how much more me, who am brought so near the door by this sickness.

..No man is an island, entire of itself
every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main
if a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were,
as well as if a manor of thy friends or of thine own were
any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind
and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls
it tolls for thee."

John Donne 1572-1631 ...Meditation XVll


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