Well we have been to the hospital today, the want to send her for a PET-CT scan in Feb, to find out if its worked.
I our case the oncologist has been very open, however while this is good, he can scare you half to death at times.
I hope your dad gets through his surgery ok. I hope my mom does not have to have any more surgery. Its a vile feeling seeing your parent in a hospital bed. My mom was in for two weeks, and every day it seemed something else went wrong, I had used to dread waking up. Its a traumatic time, and I have found the last 3 months somewhat of a nightmare, but there is always hope at the end of the tunnel, so dont give up!
Have the doctors told you when he is likely to go for surgery? And I dont wish to pry too much, however are they removing his whole tongue? my mom had a tonsil cancer with what was described as minimal lesions to the tongue, what ever that means!