We'll, it's been a few days since I came on, I now have a date to see the consultant, two weeks to wait.
Still not much info as to what it isn't etc, but I then spoke to the Medical Officer, who called the hospital. She was able to tell me that the lump on my neck is the secondary cancer, and the tongue is the primary. She also said that I should get all the information I need in terms of treatments etc when I see the consultant Mid Nov.
think after that appt, I will have to tell my family and more importantly the kids.