Yes, stress is definitely a big thing! I used to teach and did that only 8 years and had my 2 girls during those years. I thought I had a pms problem and now I know it was just the stress. I was lucky and was able to find a job in schools as a library technician so the teachers have to come with the kids. Of course the salary is much less but a lot less stress as well. I’ve been doing this for about 19 years now.
As for dry mouth, it was really bad before the surgery but coffee probably didn’t help although now I’m drinking some everyday. So since the surgery, my mouth has been moist enough. Once school’s out, I’ll probably try to cut back the coffee! Herbal teas seem to make my tongue tingle a lot! (That’s on the surface, not where the surgery was!) Weird! You would think herbals would be better! As for drinking, I don’t drink alcohol much and when I do, I like margaritas. Wine is painful but I don’t really care for it anyway! I have to eat dairy-free and gluten-free so beer is pretty much out. During the school year, I’d say I only average a margarita or 2 per month. In the summer months, a little more but now I may hold back since alcohol isn’t good!
I’d like to try eating plant based to see if my digestion would improve (I probably have IBS) and then maybe my immune system wouldn’t freak out and therefore maybe the lichen planus would get better but... I like meat! I would be nice if our meals could be healthy and prepared for us! LOL
By the way, the picture of your tongue looks like mine after a few days after the surgery. Good luck and I hope what you have comes out and doesn’t develop into SCC!