hi debkil, sorry i've only just seen your post. a very good site to visit and get information the NALC. there information leaflet is fantastic. http://www.laryngectomy.org.uk...59/NALC_Handbook.pdf
another good site for support and help is on facebook https://www.facebook.com/groups/laryngectomy/
life does change completly after the operation, but it doesnt end. you soon learn to adjust to the new normal. i only had the total laryngectomee 3 years ago and have been back at work part time for 2 years. hope you dad goes ahead with the operation.
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